So here goes, you all remember my past wonderfully disheartening story about the split from me and my wife.
So now I'm faced with another conundrum......
I have 3 women interested in dating.
Friday= she's an area sales manager for Journey's. She's fun and energetic. She's essentially the female version of me in terms of goofballness and having fun. She's also having isuses with self confidence though she's sweet and caring. 29 and no kids, nor does she want any for now which is ok with me.
Saturday= She's a teacher for kindergarten, she's well established and has high morals and values. Educated and 25 with no kids. She won't consider dating until I'm officially divorced but wants to hang out and get to know me more. She's sweet and understanding overall.
Next Friday= Her story of being single is almost the same as mine minus having the gay spouse part.She's 28. She works hard but works at a casino and has 2 kids. She's probably the prettiest of the bunch but no real established career.
I have 3 options which is 2 more than I ever imagined. I pretty much know how to go about this overall but it's always good to get input and seems to make for a most excellent conversation nonetheless!!! I don't know you guys but in some ways you are family and you really did help me cope with my getting over my ex.
You just got out of a relationship, there is nothing wrong with dating all three...just be up front about it with them. I know you are feeling lonely right now, that's completely understandable, but the worst thing you can do is jump into the first thing that comes along just so you won't be alone.
Quote:You just got out of a relationship, there is nothing wrong with dating all three...just be up front about it with them. I know you are feeling lonely right now, that's completely understandable, but the worst thing you can do is jump into the first thing that comes along just so you won't be alone.
Right that is what I'm worried about. It's great that I actually have options. But knowing me, all will really like me. And that's not a cocky statement, I'm just naturally good at being relationship material. I guess it's just am matter of picking what I feel is best with my gut right.
Bagging and Shagging time :teehee: :yes:
Date all three, and see which one works out the best for you.
Just be upfront about it.
Like the sand through an hour glass....
Teachers are often secret freaks.
In a very good way.
But yeah, more info needed before we can give you solid advice.
Without seeing pictures
[BLEEP] next friday
Marry saturday
Kill friday
internet adviceeeee
Quote:Like the sand through an hour glass....
...these are the days of our lives.
You said dating not marrying.
Date all three. Unless discussed otherwise you're allowed to do that.
I'd choose door #2 (Saturday) as my primary pick. It's an luxury to have an established woman w/serious standards. Even if you have to circum to some of those standards. Imagine what you could accomplish w/Saturday as well. It seems that she'll bring just as much or more to the table when it comes to the much needed building blocks/foundation...
Door #2 is (Friday). It seems that you two have alot in common which will be the foundation of a good relationship. Her self esteem could be polished by having a good man by herside...
Follow your heart regardless of the circumstances that the ladies brings into the fold...
NH3...
Quote:I'd choose door #2 (Saturday) as my primary pick. It's an luxury to have an established woman w/serious standards. Even if you have to circum to some of those standards. Imagine what you could accomplish w/Saturday as well. It seems that she'll bring just as much or more to the table when it comes to the much needed building blocks/foundation...
Door #2 is (Friday). It seems that you two have alot in common which will be the foundation of a good relationship. Her self esteem could be polished by having a good man by herside...
Follow your heart regardless of the circumstances that the ladies brings into the fold...
NH3...
Sounds freaky
At that age those women are interested in someone who provides security and excitement. Dating all three might be your choice to have companionship without commitment, but in their minds it's not leading to anything meaningful until you only date one. If you're up front and tell each you are dating others don't be surprised to find out they are dating others too.
Regards......................the Chiefjag
Quote:At that age those women are interested in someone who provides security and excitement. Dating all three might be your choice to have companionship without commitment, but in their minds it's not leading to anything meaningful until you only date one. If you're up front and tell each you are dating others don't be surprised to find out they are dating others too.
Regards......................the Chiefjag
So very true...
NH3...
Quote:At that age those women are interested in someone who provides security and excitement. Dating all three might be your choice to have companionship without commitment, but in their minds it's not leading to anything meaningful until you only date one. If you're up front and tell each you are dating others don't be surprised to find out they are dating others too.
Regards......................the Chiefjag
That...and the fact that he's still married might have the keeping their options open too.
Date all three and be up front about it? Umm no, don't do that. I tried that in college once and got laid by NONE of them because they each assumed I was messing around with the other two. Don't do that.
Pick and stick, literally and figuratively.
Quote:Saturday= She's a teacher for kindergarten, she's well established and has high morals and values. Educated and 25 with no kids. She won't consider dating until I'm officially divorced but wants to hang out and get to know me more. She's sweet and understanding overall.
I'm confused. Is there something that officially qualifies as "dating" that is more, or different, than hanging out and getting to know you?
Is "dating" a euphemism for sex?
"Date" all three and see where it goes. I know time and resources may be difficult to manage when you are dealing with three different women - but, hey, you wanted a challenge, right?
Quote:Date all three and be up front about it? Umm no, don't do that. I tried that in college once and got laid by NONE of them because they each assumed I was messing around with the other two. Don't do that.
Pick and stick, literally and figuratively.
Maybe the reason you didn't get laid is because you turned sex into some kind of end result of the relationship? Maybe the girls thought any guy they'd have sex with should be interested in more than just her tingly bits.
Will all of them fit into a
blender hot tub?
So let's take a look at your choices ... you have:
Fun Girl
Stable Woman
Hot Babe
Which one would you consider less likely to need Cloroformed?
That's the one I will take off your hands to make your decision less complicated. That's what a wingman does. You're welcome.
Option #1 - Hit it.
Option #2 - Work that a bit until you can hit it.
Option #3 - Hit it.