Trying a group reply as I'm on my phone. Bchbunnie she did buy a new bra and panty. She bought a new outfit. I tried to get her to tell me restaurant but now saying not sure the name. She has recently kept it locked for phone and PC.she's been standoffish. But could this really happen in just less than a week? She didn't communicate with said number till end of June. I tried to look up but no info really. I would confront but if nothing is going on that's a good way to make me look like a jerk and not trust her. I need proof. I may follow her on an outing as I think she's covering her bases well.

 

How would confronting her make you look like a jerk when she's checked off about every box to make herself look suspicious?  If she really is innocent she'll agree with you that her activity did appear suspicious.  

---

Trying a group reply as I'm on my phone. Bchbunnie she did buy a new bra and panty. She bought a new outfit. I tried to get her to tell me restaurant but now saying not sure the name. She has recently kept it locked for phone and PC.she's been standoffish. But could this really happen in just less than a week? She didn't communicate with said number till end of June. I tried to look up but no info really. I would confront but if nothing is going on that's a good way to make me look like a jerk and not trust her. I need proof. I may follow her on an outing as I think she's covering her bases well.

Good idea. I was going to suggest that. There's no better evidence than actually seeing it for yourself. You have every right to know what's going on in your marriage.

---

"Before you criticize a man, walk a mile in his shoes. That way, if he gets angry, he's a mile away and barefoot."

Trying a group reply as I'm on my phone. Bchbunnie she did buy a new bra and panty. She bought a new outfit. I tried to get her to tell me restaurant but now saying not sure the name. She has recently kept it locked for phone and PC.she's been standoffish. But could this really happen in just less than a week? She didn't communicate with said number till end of June. I tried to look up but no info really. I would confront but if nothing is going on that's a good way to make me look like a jerk and not trust her. I need proof. I may follow her on an outing as I think she's covering her bases well.

 

Geez man I feel horrible, but the only way to do it is to just put your cards on the table. Tell her this doesn't add up, whats going on? Your right this didn't happen over a week, in any relationship it's only as healthy as the communication.

---

Trying a group reply as I'm on my phone. Bchbunnie she did buy a new bra and panty. She bought a new outfit. I tried to get her to tell me restaurant but now saying not sure the name. She has recently kept it locked for phone and PC.she's been standoffish. But could this really happen in just less than a week? She didn't communicate with said number till end of June. I tried to look up but no info really. I would confront but if nothing is going on that's a good way to make me look like a jerk and not trust her. I need proof. I may follow her on an outing as I think she's covering her bases well.

 

This could be a good thing, and this can be a bad thing.  If you do witness the worst, are you prepared to contain yourself and calmly present her with what you know at a later time, or will you confront her then and there full of anger and hurt?  

---

.This cannot be real. I have to call BS. Adults are not afraid to confront their supposed significant other.

---

Looking to troll? Don't bother, we supply our own.

 

 

.This cannot be real. I have to call [BAD WORD REMOVED]. Adults are not afraid to confront their supposed significant other.

Yes they are. Your whole world can change from it...most people don't want that to happen.

---

What in the Wide Wide World of Sports is agoin' on here???

Trying a group reply as I'm on my phone. Bchbunnie she did buy a new bra and panty. She bought a new outfit. I tried to get her to tell me restaurant but now saying not sure the name. She has recently kept it locked for phone and PC.she's been standoffish. But could this really happen in just less than a week? She didn't communicate with said number till end of June. I tried to look up but no info really. I would confront but if nothing is going on that's a good way to make me look like a jerk and not trust her. I need proof. I may follow her on an outing as I think she's covering her bases well.

 

She's not sure of the name of the restaurant she's going to? I feel for you man, this doesn't sound good at all. 

---

<a class="bbc_url" href='http://m.huffpost.com/us/entry/4676472'>http://m.huffpost.com/us/entry/4676472</a>

3. Social or Work Patterns Have Suddenly Changed


If he or she seems to be working unusually long hours, hanging out more with friends, or harder to get a hold of with unusually long, drawn-out explanations for such patterns, it may be a sign. And if you pay close enough attention, you might even start to notice the absences are taking on a pattern.


Most people who are in the midst of secret relationships will often start altering their schedules to match those of their elicit lovers and will unknowingly start forming routines for such trysts. So be sure to keep your eyes peeled for any kind of repetitions in odd behaviors coupled with incredulous explanations.


....


7. Ditching Flannels For Lingerie? Red Flag


If your woman used to lie around the house in sweats and sleep in granny flannels and has suddenly taken a keen interest in her designer wardrobe and physique, then something is definitely brewing.


The truth is simple, when one half of a couple is thinking about leaving the other, they suddenly become interested in things like losing weight, dressing nicely, grooming, etc. because they are preparing themselves for the dating market or, worse yet... a new boy toy lover.


Should your partner make any kind of major lifestyle change, whether it is in eating habits or in attire, beware.


8. Gut Check


It is so strange to me how many people these days refuse to listen to their natural intuition. What could be more reliable than our own deep-rooted, innate sensibilities? This is why I always say that if you just can't shake the feeling that something is awry, then it probably is. Our intuitions don't lie. People do. Period.

---

"Before you criticize a man, walk a mile in his shoes. That way, if he gets angry, he's a mile away and barefoot."

She's not sure of the name of the restaurant she's going to? I feel for you man, this doesn't sound good at all.

From article above:

6. What's Wrong, Honey? Cat Got Your Tongue?


People have trouble keeping their lies straight when they are busy weaving tangled webs of deceit. If you notice that your significant other is starting to backtrack on where he has been or who he told you he was spending time with, then you need to brace yourself for the fact that he is most likely lying to you.


And if you do happen to come across actual proof that he has been lying to you about his whereabouts... RUN. The lies will only become bigger if you stick around.

---

"Before you criticize a man, walk a mile in his shoes. That way, if he gets angry, he's a mile away and barefoot."

Geez man I feel horrible, but the only way to do it is to just put your cards on the table. Tell her this doesn't add up, whats going on? Your right this didn't happen over a week, in any relationship it's only as healthy as the communication.

 

I have to agree with Eric, I'd confront her and just tell her there's a lot of smoke and her being vague and secretive isn't helping matters. If there isn't any reason to worry she shouldn't be as evasive as it seems she's being.

 

I would not under any circumstances follow her.

---

I have to agree with Eric, I'd confront her and just tell her there's a lot of smoke and her being vague and secretive isn't helping matters. If there isn't any reason to worry she shouldn't be as evasive as it seems she's being.


I would not under any circumstances follow her.

Why?


He has a right to know what's going on. Going on past experiences (I've been on both ends of the spectrum) the "cheater" won't just come clean and spill the beans after confronting them. If she's being secretive he needs to see what the big secret is firsthand. There's no need to keep dragging it out.

---

"Before you criticize a man, walk a mile in his shoes. That way, if he gets angry, he's a mile away and barefoot."

I have to agree with Eric, I'd confront her and just tell her there's a lot of smoke and her being vague and secretive isn't helping matters. If there isn't any reason to worry she shouldn't be as evasive as it seems she's being.


I would not under any circumstances follow her.

That is why you ask somebody else to follow her and take pictures

---

I would hire a private detective and then, if needed, a lawyer.  I've seen women go for the jugular (which translates to removing a man's wallet through his chest) when cornered.  Best to make the preemptive move.

---

From article above:

 

 

Right. I mean that's just common sense. Even if you don't know the actual name of the place, you should be able to give some details... "it's that Italian place on Sutter and Jacobsen St."

---

So an update. She went out again on Monday was out for 6-7 hours. Said dinner and a movie. She's going out again tonight. I looked at our text message log and she's exchanged 200-300 text with one number since beginning of month.I can't see what she's texting cause she has her laptop and cell phone locked with unknown pins and PW. Everything I've read suggests its not a good outcome for me however part of me still doesn't believe it. I asked her where she was going specifically bit she is being vague.

 

Unfortunately, it don't sound good. 

---

I bet its the aerobics instructor

---

Trying a group reply as I'm on my phone. Bchbunnie she did buy a new bra and panty. She bought a new outfit. I tried to get her to tell me restaurant but now saying not sure the name. She has recently kept it locked for phone and PC.she's been standoffish. But could this really happen in just less than a week? She didn't communicate with said number till end of June. I tried to look up but no info really. I would confront but if nothing is going on that's a good way to make me look like a jerk and not trust her. I need proof. I may follow her on an outing as I think she's covering her bases well.

 

 

I'm sure she'll turn it around and act like you're the one being "paranoid"....thats the classic turnabout. 

---

I'm sure she'll turn it around and act like you're the one being "paranoid"....thats the classic turnabout.

My point exactly and that's why I'm against the "confront her" method. Somehow she'll make it seem like its you that has the issue.

---

"Before you criticize a man, walk a mile in his shoes. That way, if he gets angry, he's a mile away and barefoot."

I'm sure she'll turn it around and act like you're the one being "paranoid"....thats the classic turnabout.

I agree with you...and then she'll start covering her tracks better so then you'll have an even harder time finding out what's going on.

---

What in the Wide Wide World of Sports is agoin' on here???

Why?


He has a right to know what's going on. Going on past experiences (I've been on both ends of the spectrum) the "cheater" won't just come clean and spill the beans after confronting them. If she's being secretive he needs to see what the big secret is firsthand. There's no need to keep dragging it out.

 

Personally, I feel like I'd protect my assets better to not put myself in any confrontational position. Like HB said, hire a lawyer yesterday. If she doesn't know you're suspicious yet, you can also make that work to your advantage.

---