If I had a friend who was abusing alcohol or drugs, I would obviously  have some responsibility to  intervene  in some way with advice or something to keep them from killing  themselves.  

 

But in the case of having a friend who is killing their self with  food, where  is my responsibility?   Do I tell them, "You need to eat a lot less?"   Do I say, "You need to look out for your health?"

 

How do you stop somebody from killing their self with too much of the wrong food and lack of exercise?  

 

Don't I have some sort of responsibility to intervene and try to save a life?   How do I handle this?  

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Is this person aware of the problem? I would have an enlightening and frank conversation with him/her. If they truly are in danger of causing harm to them self, then it is your obligation as a friend to say something.

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Is this person aware of the problem? I would have an enlightening and frank conversation with him/her. If they truly are in danger of causing harm to them self, then it is your obligation as a friend to say something.

 

"Fat" is such a touchy subject.   But it seems like I have the same responsibility as if the problem was alcohol or drugs.   The harm is the same.   It's suicide.  

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If it's a dude, them him directly.  If it's a chick leave it alone, they can't handle being told they are gaining weight.

 

If it's your g/f, just go get a new one.

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If you're truly worried about this person's health then definitely try to help. Whether or not you are in shape or fit, maybe you can offer to exercise together and get on a diet together. I would straight up tell him I'm worried about him. I would have some print outs of all the side affects that obesity has just in case he gets upset you can say no, look, I don't want this happening to you. If you have a hard time finding the right way maybe ask him to help you stay on track with your exercise and diet and see if he'll hop on board with you.

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Don't be forceful about it either. I can only speak for alcohol abuse, but I imagine it would work the same with this. They usually won't change unless they want to change. Either that or a life changing experience. I unfortunately had to endure the latter of the two. A blessing no doubt, but never fun experiencing it. Many people tried to talk to me in the past and I didn't want to listen. So be prepared for that. It's not fun for him any more than it is for you to watch it happening. Stick with him. Don't give up on him if you truly care. I had 3 people that never gave up on me and they were my parents and now wife. I can go on but it would shift more towards alcohol rather than diet and exercise and I'm not sure if they can be talked about the same.

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.. place some laxitives in their food so everytime they eat they **** it out.  That way, the more they eat the more wieght they lose.  Great diet & everybody wins.

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.. place some laxitives in their food so everytime they eat they [BAD WORD REMOVED] it out.  That way, the more they eat the more wieght they lose.  Great diet & everybody wins.

Until they're hospitalized for severe dehydration.

 

Either way, you can't help someone who doesn't want to helped. Sad, but true.

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Either way, you can't help someone who doesn't want to helped. Sad, but true.

 

This is the truth. Take it from someone who has spent time in a rehab facility. The more you force the issue, the harder they push back. Mention it casually over time..maybe that will create the spark. In the end, it's all on the person. 

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Live long and prosper \\// 

 

If I had a friend who was abusing alcohol or drugs, I would obviously  have some responsibility to  intervene  in some way with advice or something to keep them from killing  themselves.  
 
But in the case of having a friend who is killing their self with  food, where  is my responsibility?   Do I tell them, "You need to eat a lot less?"   Do I say, "You need to look out for your health?"
 
How do you stop somebody from killing their self with too much of the wrong food and lack of exercise?  
 
Don't I have some sort of responsibility to intervene and try to save a life?   How do I handle this?

If he is killing himself with food as you say then he must be seriously obese. Telling him "you need to eat a lot less" is not news to him. He knows he has a weight and consumption problem, he doesn't need his friends telling him.

Regards..............the Chiefjag

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If he is killing himself with food as you say then he must be seriously obese. Telling him "you need to eat a lot less" is not news to him. He knows he has a weight and consumption problem, he doesn't need his friends telling him.


Regards..............the Chiefjag

Sounds like something an obese person would say...


It's a touchy subject and I think it depends how close you are with the person. You'll hurt their feelings for sure, but I think that's an acceptable "loss" to take if it leads to a positive change. You would have to be sure that their weight gain is, in fact, due to a food addiction, and not a medical or genetic disorder that they may not be able to fix.

I tell my close smoking friends graphic stories about cancer patients and what they go through. It's certainly unpleasant for them and it ticks them off, but hey, I know exactly what awaits them in the future and it is a living hell. It's tough love.


If you do decide to pursue approaching them about this, I hope you would make yourself available for continued psychological and emotional support.

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