(07-30-2017, 07:22 PM)Jags Wrote: I'll probably sound like a complete jackass with this but here it goes..
After reading your first few posts, you've got no idea how close I was to PM'ing you so I can send money to help you in your situation. Then reading that you've got financial support from both parents yet are choosing not to do so, changes my perspective. Here we have a horrible disease people want to defeat and pray daily to get past and you are seemily choosing to die. You're a grown [BLEEP] man and I can't make you change your mind. But with 2 sets of parents that you apparently keep close to your heart, children, as another poster pointed out, and possibly grandchildren, seems pretty selfish to not take the monies offered by the parents. Suck up the pride.. you're now not living just for yourself. You've got 2 sets of parents (that will be devastated seeing their kid go before them) a wife and children and possibly grandchildren losing you. People that love you, depend on you, look forward to seeing you, etc. If you can be a long term Jag fan, then you should be used to the pain, especially with what you're dealing with. So, suck up the pride and take the money to pay for you're medical expenses. Repay them with your love. Because, they're offering it with the same. To me, it takes a weak man not to accept what is being offered to you. Keep fighting. Be the old fart with the stories to tell about how you kicked cancer in the [BLEEP].
With that, love ya man. Best of luck.
Ps. Look forward to you beating this and posting about how glad you were that you did.
I've thinking about Dakota often in the last few days. You mentioned something that's related to what I'm going to suggest.
Paul, you have been a part of an extended family with so many of us for a long time. I certainly appreciate the support you have given me over the years. I think so many of us want to help you, in one or more ways.
My suggestion that I think might help alleviate your concern about your family spending sizable sums of money on your treatments is to put together an Online fund to help raise money for part of the expenses you will need for your treatments. I've given money to others with illnesses in these types of funds. These type of funds are also used to help people that get in trouble with the law when they use free speech but their respective gov't thinks otherwise. This happened recently in Canada with a Canadian Patriot that I think highly of.
I certainly would like to contribute to a fund that would help you with your treatments. Even though you mentioned that you are only given a 6 % chance of survival, I believe from a faith standpoint that if people reach out to you to try to help, it increases the chances of you beating the odds. If the treatments don't bring you the results we are all hoping for, at least I think it would be uplifting to you and your family that you received this type of support in addition to other forms of support. Through difficult times, that could make a huge difference regardless of the final outcome.
By all means, please feel comfortable discussing this with your family. I recommend that you show your family this entire thread. That by itself I think will help each of you.
Whatever you decide, you certainly have my support.
David
