(11-27-2024, 09:10 PM)mikesez Wrote:

(11-27-2024, 09:00 PM)Bchbunnie4 Wrote: But that’s not what you said. You didn’t say anything about not making it personal, you said you wanted acknowledgment for how great or witty your thought processes are…ie: validation.

Quote:I'm looking for "I didn't know that, thanks for pointing that out" or "I already knew that and I'm not persuaded because ..."

Sure, the first possibility I listed is validating.  The second one is not.  Because the validation part doesn't matter to me.  Either way is fine

Does validation matter to you? I hope not because I find you to be dense, argumentative, and ill tempered.  Like someone who used to be smart and open to the world but who has been totally worn down by a family that can't give her the time of day and perhaps also a chronic disease.  I know that's mean, but since you're not looking for validation I figure what's the harm?

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That’s the difference between the two of us. I couldn’t care less what you or anyone else thinks of me, you on the other hand desperately care how you’re viewed. I am secure with who I am as a person and unlike you I don’t need outside validation. 

Maybe you can do some affirmations everyday to help. I bet Stuart Smalley would be very motivational for you, try saying this in the mirror a few times a day:
“Im good enough, I’m smart enough, and doggone it, people like me”.

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