Quote:For the record is the "me" time that caused having kids at a young age

 

But in all seriousness I don't advice people having kids at ages 19-23 several factors come into play mostly economics. Having kids is EXPENSIVE HOLY CRAP IS IT EXPENSIVE and at 19 or 22 most young adults simply don't have the income to support a family. Now if you wait until you can afford kids you'll never have them but there's a reasonable point with some sacrifice you can start a family. I applaud people that wait until they're able and ready to provide for their kids, that's the responsible thing to do. That said if you end up having a kid young, it can be done with extreme sacrifice and hard work, and it's nothing to be ashamed of. I personally believe every child is a blessing and the timing is not always ours to choose.

 

Look I go to the store now with my family of 6 and people look at us like where Amish or don't know how it happens. I get asked on a regular basis, "are you done yet?", "you need a hobby", "Is that all of them?" and so on, it's definitely not popular to have a big family today but I wouldn't have it any other way.

I agree with you and Mr. Cabesa. I had my son at 20 and finances were by far the biggest hurdle to overcome. I made under $20k for probably my sons first 5 years -- I didn't even buy him Xmas presents (he doesn't remember haha). Whereas all three of my brothers waited until they were financially secure, and everything always looks so easy for them in that area -- but they look like they might physically pass out all the time because they're chasing babies all day long.


As far as what TMD is saying, I think he is off base with "me time" being the reason people don't have kids, but on the other hand I think it is true that there is a "me time" problem with many young families - it just doesn't stop them from having kids IMO. I think some people have kids without thinking it through or realizing what that involves, and are overwhelmed by the commitment or unwilling to sacrifice some sections of their own life for the good of their children's.


And don't even get me started on those parents that take their infant children to the movie theatre...

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