Quote:You're a better man than me. I will, and have, tolerated and worked through problems and differences in my marriage but one thing I will not stand for is infidelity. That is sacred in my book and any instance will be met with an unblinking divorce decree.

I understand your perspective, it's an extreme betrayal of trust - but in most cases, there's an underlying issue to cause said infidelity to happen...and recovering from such a fiasco can be the hardest thing, emotionally, anyone has to deal with in their life.

 

It is workable, though it's kinda like looking at a broken mirror that's been fixed. It's never the same again. The bond can be stronger, but what your life was before will never be like that again. Both people have to be on the same page to put the action(s) behind them and move forward in a positive direction, that's a given.

 

Quote:Unfortunately I think that the outcome will not be to my liking

 

 Go into it with emotional level-headedness, buddy. Know it won't be easy, but let her know how these actions have been making you feel. Don't be accusatory, just explain how this is a drastic shift that is causing concerns and insecurity on your end. If you've got a strong level of communication between you two, it's likely that she'll come around and be honest. Really, it's the dishonesty that hurts most in the end. The action (if it's happened) is dirt on the cake, to be sure, but you've gotta know yourself going in.

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