Quote:Sorry BigJag. Truly bad news. I would only give you two bits of advice: stay off the sauce and don't lose sight of your real priorities (healing and happiness of your son and yourself).

This ^^

 

Someone has to have a clear head to deal with the responsibilities of being the adult.  It sounds like she's been looking for something for a while if she could make a connection that quickly, tossing aside any concern about the ramifications. 

 

If she's on the fence about what she should do after coming clean, it's clear the newness of the relationship she's developed with this other woman is intriguing enough for her to pursue regardless of what it may cost her.  I understand your position that you've invested half your life in this relationship, but so has she, and she's pretty much tossed it aside at the first opportunity.  You need to protect yourself and your son. Find a decent lawyer, and prepare for the worst.  She'll discover soon enough that this romantic interlude is just that, and then real life will kick her in the head. 

 

If it was this easy for her to stray this time, it will happen again.  It doesn't matter what she says. 

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