Big Jag - 

 

 You sound like you're keeping your needs and your future in sight. That's a very good thing.

 

 Stop telling us that many of us will not think you're handling this situation correctly. What we think doesn't matter. We aren't you - and we have no idea  about  her.

 

 I really have no opinion about your wife, as I've not heard her side of the story. Think you could have her write a companion post  giving us her thoughts? (Only kidding, sort of.)

 

 You seem to think your life was tremendously boring. Do you not realize you described the normal lives of about 95% of American  couples? Unless you  are rich and famous you shouldn't expect to have time to do much more that what you now do. Don't start  inventing reasons to feel guilty.

 

 I hope you realize you've created a Message Board Serial - which means you're obligated to periodically update the group on the  latest installment of Big Jag's Move Forward.

 

 Good luck. It's only life. It doesn't last forever.

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