Quote:I do, and I knew the minute my child was born that my life and my priorities all changed in an instant.  That doesn't mean you can't have your own interests or desires.  But, when you've been in a marriage for a while, and kids are involved, and suddenly one spouse decides she's going off the reservation because she's not happy, and she wants to be satisfied elsewhere, that leaves one parent there to be the adult for the child.  Someone has to be the stabilizing force.

 

If both parents have decided "screw this, I'm going to do my own thing." the kid is the one who suffers.  When there's so much turmoil in a situation like this, it's tough to maintain the necessary focus to assure the child is insulated.  If they're so wrapped up in trying to find someone to make them feel better, they're nothing but selfish. 

 

Either you're making a hell of a lot of assumptions or I'm missing something. It's like your default setting is to assume the worst about the guy.

 

Have you ever been on a dating site? They really aren't something that take up a lot of time, no more than having a few friends who you text regularly and the occasional date for a few hours. From there, there are all sorts of possible relationships you can form from friendship, to casual sex, to marriage and everything in between. Nothing that has to take up your life and assuming he is a responsible parent with a bit of common sense and a bit sensitivity, nothing whatsoever that should interfere with any parenting duties or the child's situation.

 

Being a responsible single parent doesn't mean sitting on your own and being miserable and lonely when the kid is out of the room just for 'stability'. That's no good for anyone.

 

Quote:He should strive for parenting FULL CONSISTENCY!!!

 

I did a proper snort laugh and now I feel bad. Thanks for making me feel feelings, jerk!

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