Quote:You do grasp the fact that he's not a single parent yet, right?

 

 

Quote:And that two weeks or so ago he was happily married and now he's got a lesbian "roommate" and been out dating and I don't think either have been to a divorce lawyer yet!

 

And what? We aren't talking about his relationship status, we are talking about how his use of dating websites it might affect his kid(s), he is a big boy, he can and will make his own mistakes, if this particular mistake affects the kid then there is a problem, bus so far nobody has give a reason how or why this will affect anything, just generalities about 'focus and priorities'. What his partner is and isn't doing is out of his control and nothing to do with what he does as a good parent. From the sound of it he is in a crappy situation and is just trying to cope as best he can.

 

All I disagree with is slamming a father for going on dating sites is (assuming we are talking about a reasonable adult who knows how to use an iota of discretion) for irresponsible/selfish parenting. It is perfectly possible to be an outstanding parent giving all the love and attention a child needs and even to compensate for the failings of the other parent and then do any number of things that a child shouldn't see/know about/be a part of one the child is in bed/at school/with another adult. His situation doesn't mean he suddenly needs to live like a monk, for the sake of his child who would probably much prefer a happy father over one in bits from his breakup.

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