Quote:Also, ask any military spouse, especially the wives, if they like to be called 'dependents' instead of spouses. I know when I was one I hated being called a dependent. I was a military spouse. So what you label someone or call someone, even on paper, matters. I am not some gender neutral spouse.  I am a woman and a wife and that's what I prefer to be called. Even if it is just on a piece of paper.