Quote:Perhaps there is confusion. In a gay marriage, is there a "husband and wife"? Serious question.
I worked with a lesbian that I would consider to be clearly the "husband" in that relationship. She was more masculine than some of the guys that worked there. She had short hair (almost like a crew cut), wore more masculine attire and her actions were more like that of a male. Her partner on the other hand was clearly more feminine. She is a very pretty girl, wears makeup, wears dresses/skirts (and is actually kind of hot). Would she not be considered to be a "wife"?
Another example that I'll share is my brother. Though he sometimes acts a bit like what I would call feminine, he dresses like any modern businessman would dress, that being conservative suits and ties for work, and casual men's dress in social situations. His partner acts quite a bit more feminine, and wears dresses more like what most heterosexual men would call "gay". I guess my point is, you wouldn't really know that my brother is gay, but his partner leaves no question in your mind. So wouldn't you consider my brother to be the "husband" and his partner to be the "wife" in that relationship?
Once again, this is a serious question, not meant to be offensive in any way.
Perhaps I'll take this one since I'm actually gay and fee qualified to answer this appropriately, although I trust RJ would probably be able to give as good of an asnwer as I.
Although, I can only speak for myself, I'm pretty in touch with the rest of the gay mafia. So, here goes.....
I am not currently married, however, no, myself or my partner would not consider ourselves "husband" as that is typically applied to a male. She would be my wife and I would be her wife. There's sometimes a more masculine person in a gay relationship, but not always. You can have two feminine females, or males as a couple. Two masculine females or males in a couple or any variation of what society consideres feminine or masculine.
I would probably be considered the more masculine out of my relationship, however, most people wouldn't know that I am gay upon meeting me, however it would make no difference whether they did or didn't. I do have short hair though, so if that is the qualifier, there ya go.
"People", perhaps straight people, seem comfortable with having a "male/female" in a gay couple, but trust me that isn't always the case. Those are just the ones that you might recognize in a wal-mart. When I would go out with my GF, I don't think you would recognize us as a couple right away, unless you saw us canoodling or something.
What did you mean "Actually kind of hot". Is it strange that a lesbian could be hot? I happen to know tons of them. My baby mama (we adopted) and My best friend are absolutely drop dead gorgeous. I don't happen to think I'm a dog either, but whatever.
