Quote:Perhaps I'll take this one since I'm actually gay and fee qualified to answer this appropriately, although I trust RJ would probably be able to give as good of an asnwer as I.

 

Although, I can only speak for myself, I'm pretty in touch with the rest of the gay mafia. So, here goes.....

 

I am not currently married, however, no, myself or my partner would not consider ourselves "husband" as that is typically applied to a male. She would be my wife and I would be her wife. There's sometimes a more masculine person in a gay relationship, but not always. You can have two feminine females, or males as a couple. Two masculine females or males in a couple or any variation of what society consideres feminine or masculine.

 

I would probably be considered the more masculine out of my relationship, however, most people wouldn't know that I am gay upon meeting me, however it would make no difference whether they did or didn't. I do have short hair though, so if that is the qualifier, there ya go.

 

"People", perhaps straight people, seem comfortable with having a "male/female" in a gay couple, but trust me that isn't always the case. Those are just the ones that you might recognize in a wal-mart. When I would go out with my GF, I don't think you would recognize us as a couple right away, unless you saw us canoodling or something.

 

What did you mean "Actually kind of hot". Is it strange that a lesbian could be hot? I happen to know tons of them. My baby mama (we adopted) and My best friend are absolutely drop dead gorgeous. I don't happen to think I'm a dog either, but whatever.

 

Thank you for your answer, I was hoping that you would chime in regarding my question.

 

Regarding the first part in bold, this is my feeble attempt at humor.  So are you saying that RJ is gay?  Not that there is anything wrong with that (stupid reference to Seinfeld).

 

Regarding the second paragraph in bold, short hair is not a "qualifier", but when it's worn more towards a "male hairstyle" then yes it is an indicator.  I can't imagine a heterosexual female grooming herself in such a way (not saying that it's wrong).  Also, it's common for people to not know someone is gay when meeting them, both males and females.  However, it cannot be denied that there are certain instances where sexual preference is pretty much "known" when one meets a certain person.  There is such a thing as "acting gay" (more so on the male side), but also on the female side.

 

Regarding the third bold paragraph, I'll admit that that I do have a "stereotype" in mind, especially considering this particular girl (my co-worker).  I viewed my co-worker as "just another guy" and treated her as such.  We would laugh, joke (sometimes rather crude) and basically got along pretty good.  When I met her partner, she was a 180 between my "butch" co-worker and her partner.  Now of course, me being the "dirty old man" that I am, I scrutinized my co-worker's partner closely.  I would never consider my lesbian and "masculine" co-worker to be "hot", but after seeing her partner I thought to myself, "if I was 10 or 20 years younger, I most certainly would hit that".  It's not "strange" for me to think that a lesbian woman could be hot.

 

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