Quote:Perhaps I'll take this one since I'm actually gay and fee qualified to answer this appropriately, although I trust RJ would probably be able to give as good of an asnwer as I.

 

Although, I can only speak for myself, I'm pretty in touch with the rest of the gay mafia. So, here goes.....

 

I am not currently married, however, no, myself or my partner would not consider ourselves "husband" as that is typically applied to a male. She would be my wife and I would be her wife. There's sometimes a more masculine person in a gay relationship, but not always. You can have two feminine females, or males as a couple. Two masculine females or males in a couple or any variation of what society consideres feminine or masculine.

 

I would probably be considered the more masculine out of my relationship, however, most people wouldn't know that I am gay upon meeting me, however it would make no difference whether they did or didn't. I do have short hair though, so if that is the qualifier, there ya go.

 

"People", perhaps straight people, seem comfortable with having a "male/female" in a gay couple, but trust me that isn't always the case. Those are just the ones that you might recognize in a wal-mart. When I would go out with my GF, I don't think you would recognize us as a couple right away, unless you saw us canoodling or something.

 

What did you mean "Actually kind of hot". Is it strange that a lesbian could be hot? I happen to know tons of them. My baby mama (we adopted) and My best friend are absolutely drop dead gorgeous. I don't happen to think I'm a dog either, but whatever.

 

You also deal with stereotype here, with what was referred to in the post you quoted. Just because someone acts "masculine", it makes them the "husband" in the same-sex marriage?

 

What about in a opposite-sex marriage where the female works full-time and the dad is stay at home? Do you switch the term too? I've known plenty of marriages where the women "rule" the house". Do you switch the term in that case too because the mom is the more "dominant" personality in the household?

 

Of course not.

 

So why is this thinking somehow different when it comes to same-sex?

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