Quote:If he is killing himself with food as you say then he must be seriously obese. Telling him "you need to eat a lot less" is not news to him. He knows he has a weight and consumption problem, he doesn't need his friends telling him.


Regards..............the Chiefjag

Sounds like something an obese person would say...


It's a touchy subject and I think it depends how close you are with the person. You'll hurt their feelings for sure, but I think that's an acceptable "loss" to take if it leads to a positive change. You would have to be sure that their weight gain is, in fact, due to a food addiction, and not a medical or genetic disorder that they may not be able to fix.

I tell my close smoking friends graphic stories about cancer patients and what they go through. It's certainly unpleasant for them and it ticks them off, but hey, I know exactly what awaits them in the future and it is a living hell. It's tough love.


If you do decide to pursue approaching them about this, I hope you would make yourself available for continued psychological and emotional support.

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