Quote:Do you believe in the use of corporal punishment in child rearing? If so, where do you draw the line? If not, what other alternative forms of punishment do you recommend and has it been effective for you? And last question, do you believe corporal punishment has a place in our schools today?

 

Corporal punishment is warranted at times and as long as it doesn't lead to child abuse it's fair and sometimes the only option left for unreasonable children. As far as where you draw the line? I see nothing wrong with a swift paddling or quick belt lashing in a reasonable area to ensure the message is now loud and clear after failed attempts at instilling reason with the child fell upon deaf ears. I am not saying beat the blood out of a child. I am not saying bruise or mark the child. Just enough to make sure that the better option next time is to listen to the voice of reason rather take the harder route. 

 

I personally think parents have gone soft. And I think the more you allow each generation to grow up and get away with things that they shouldn't get away with. And the more you allow them to develop a sense of self entitlement. The more dangerous it will become as it goes unchecked year after year. I have noticed this with my own parents. I am the oldest son of three boys. I am twenty-eight. I have a twenty-one year old brother and a seventeen year old brother who still live with my parents. I wasn't perfect. But I wasn't nearly as bad nor as much as a handful as these two were and are towards my parents. 

 

Ultimately. What's most important is teaching your child right from wrong at a young and early age. Teaching your child to respect others. When I was a boy growing up. My father rarely ever had to lift a finger or raise his hand or bring out the belt. All he had to do was raise his voice and that was enough to end the issues or stir away the potential storm. It was maybe fear when I was younger. But as I aged into early adulthood, and clearly outweighed my father and matched him just as much in strength. I realized I could probably hold my own against him. But I respected him. And you just never crossed that line. Not because you feared him. But because you reminded yourself of what a hell he had gone through at my age growing up. And how hard he had worked for his family. 

 

Sadly, most kids today don't have that sense anymore. They lack the love, respect and admiration for a good father or mother. They don't appreciate the sacrifices and demands their parents have made to bring them up to the best of their abilities. And I believe a firm butt whooping here and there, when it's warranted, is a concrete way to remind them of just how good they have it. 

 

And as far as school punishment? I don't like it personally. I wouldn't want somebody putting their hands on my child. I'll do it if it's needed and required in front of the appropriate party myself. 

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