Quote:For those who want to complain about women who have abortions.....To some people the idea of having a child is beyond terrifying because they know they are not fit to parent said child. I am one of those people. I did get pregnant and I considered abortion because I knew I was not fit to be a mother. I obviously didn't have an abortion and at the urging of her father I tried to be a mother and failed horrifically.


I am one of those people who would have been an abusive parent because I had serious anger issues that I couldn't control when pushed to a point. I still struggle with it though age and keeping myself away from 'triggers' has helped. The day I almost put my fist in my 6 month old baby's face was the last day I spent even a second alone with her and the people around me realized I wasn't kidding when I said I wasn't fit to be a parent. Luckily her father and his family were wonderful people and they raised her. She's 25 and has a couple of kids of her own.


I say all of this to make a point. Whether we agree with abortion or not, we shouldn't judge women who have them. No, it's NOT okay for women to use it as birth control. I disagree with that totally. But we don't know the circumstances of the women in general who do have them and if any of them are like me minus the awesome support system I had, believe me when I say they are saving a child from a life of abuse the likes of which no one wants to think about.


You say, well they can always place it for adoption. I went that route as well. Apparently no birth control worked for me. my body was resistant to anything and everything. I placed my second child for adoption and let me tell you, as much as I knew I didn't want that child and couldn't care for him and was doing the best thing for him, it was still one of the most difficult things I've done. I went through some serious depression after that. Not all people can and do go through with adoption. They change their minds and think they can handle it. Some end well, others do not.


So no matter how much one might disagree with it, don't be so quick to judge those who do it. We all have our faults or things that make us not so nice people from time to time. For some of us it could cause serious and lasting harm to an innocent child whether it be anger issues, drug abuse, alcohol abuse, unsafe people in our lives. Whatever. Just putting out a real life experience POV for consideration.

Just wanted to thank you for sharing this, it takes courage to be this honest. And it takes alot mental strength to look into yourself and truly understand your weaknesses.


Parenting is the dag gum diddly-um hardest thing I've ever done. It's not something that's for everyone.


You seem like a good person, as far as I can tell from my internet vantage point...


If you don't mind me asking, about how long into the pregnancy did you make your decision?

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