Quote:Just finished up a talk with the hiring manager.


I got an extra week of leave per year, a flexed schedule (but they are pretty loose when it comes to office hours anyway), a slight bump in pay and pushed back the start date until the middle of August.


Now I have to ask, for those of you that stated "no" do you think that negotiations are hostile? Why would having a discussion about something like this be a bad thing?

 

Well, to tell the truth, while my answer was "absolutely no," I'm not sure I'm right.   It depends on the situation, how bad you need the job, what type of job it is, your feel for what they expect in terms of negotiating, etc.   My answer was based on my personal experience and observation.   I've seen people who let pride stand in the way of making a rational, big-picture decision. 

 

But as I think about it, my answer ("absolutely not") may have been wrong.  If you're young, if your skills are in demand, if you think not negotiating would show the hiring manager that he's hiring a weak person, etc, etc.  And there are so many other factors. 

 

I never negotiated, and everything worked out well for me.  On the other hand, I have read that one reason women make less than men is because women are not as assertive in their salary demands.   You don't ask, you don't get.  

 

I guess it depends. 

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