Quote:I went speed dating, 15 women present, I crossed yes on 10 but I only really cared about one. Got 3 matches which somehow included the one I cared about. We went on a date but instead of showing interest in the other person I mostly talked about myself and my interests throughout the evening. She gave me an honest and very fair opinion on the date saying I should take more care to show interest in the other person and make them feel special, which, in hindsight, I fully agree with. I sent her an email explaining my behavior and basically asking for a second chance but she politely turned me down saying she was dating someone else she met at the speeddating event.


What annoys me is that I've done this before. Both friends and colleagues have told me they found me rather uninterested and even off putting when they first met me but once they got know me they discovered there was more than they expected below the surface. I've tried to be a bit more open when meeting new people and mostly succeeded, it's just sucks I didn't do so this time.

Ah that's not bad at all I thought it would be some nightmare scenario.She's probably out of the picture but plenty more ladies on this fine planet of ours to try again with.


Generally when trying to chat up a women for the first time I try to tell her as little as possible about myself and try to force myself to ask her lots(without being overly nosey) about her life even if it isn't particularly interesting.This achieves two things 1)She'll think you genuinely care about what goes on in her life(sometimes you actually will) and 2)It leaves you as mysterious and more enticing to her,she'll either gain a genuine interest in you or she'll feel bad about talking about herself so much and the conversation will flow better after that.

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