Quote:You disagreed but then basically stated that you and your husband are very much alike in your beliefs.

While you may differ slightly you aren't far away from each other.

 

My point was that a far left and a far right wouldn't or shouldn't get married because of just those reasons.

Your moral compass may be directed by your faith but not everyone is a Christian, or a Jew or a Muslim... some people's moral compass is set by the politics or the social environment they grew up around..

If you share in a religion.. you're obviously pretty close to the same base.

 

I have no religion, rather I'm agnostic... So I don't think I could marry someone who goes to church every Sunday and says their prayers every night. And likewise they wouldn't feel fully connected to me.

I couldn't be with someone who wants to abolish abortion or interfere with people's rights to marry.

On the same note... I couldn't marry someone who thinks our current welfare system works or thinks we can tax our way out of debt or into free healthcare.

 

Maybe it's me....but I've dated girls that fit both those scenarios and knew very quickly that having moral views so different, having kids and being married just seemed like a terrible idea.

 

I ended up with one much more close to center... and totally not into politics so we never have to argue over Trump lol

We are alike in our beliefs yes, but not so much when it comes to how the government should play a role. That doesn't seem like a big deal but we've had some interesting conversations because of it. Because government does play such a big role in how we all live our lives due to laws and bills passed and executive orders signed as well as court decisions, how you both see the government's role in daily living can be every bit as argumentative even if you have the same basic morals and values.

 

On the subject of gays getting married, on the base level we agree it's not right according to our beliefs, but in my opinion the government has no right to tell people who can get married as long as it's legal (both parties over 18) and both consent to the marriage. On a humanity level for lack of better words, I believe everyone should be able to decide for themselves. If, according to my beliefs, they are committing a sin then that's on them. If they ask me my opinion or what I believe I will tell them, but I'm not one to judge and the government shouldn't be judge, jury and executioner on the matter. My husband thinks gay marriage shouldn't be allowed at all. 

 

I was not a Christian until 5 1/2 years ago so 39 years of my life was living a life that the majority of folks here would be shocked to hear about if all they know about me is what I post and how they perceive me. It has been a huge change in my outlook of things and there are many things I have yet to reconcile between my old life and how I now believe that I can't go into here due the CoC, but suffice it to say it's a learning and growing process both in my relationships with my friends and family in life as well as people and subjects discussed here. Sadly many religious folks are "burned at the stake of public opinion" because of a very vocal few who do not represent the majority as a whole and it makes us look like a bunch of crazy people who believe a bunch of crazy stuff and it makes for real dialogue with folks who don't believe almost impossible because of preconceived notions.

 

I'm pretty much a black sheep in my church because I wasn't born and raised into it and lived a life completely different from anything any of them have a clue about. If some of them knew, especially the older ones, they wouldn't talk to me again. The majority of them were born and raised in it, have never done anything other than what they've always done. Very insulated from the world and have no clue how life actually is and see everything in black and white. They have no clue of the grey areas. Those grey areas don't change what I believe to be true but they help me have compassion and empathy in ways the others do not. That is something my husband is slowly learning from me and it is allowing him to see that not everything fits into the boxes he has always thought things were supposed to fit into. That it's okay to disagree with something but at the same time see the human element and instead of judging, be more compassionate.

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