(09-14-2021, 10:13 AM)flsprtsgod Wrote: There's the handy dandy 5 step method to any communication:

1: Identification. "Hey John, this is Mike."
2: Reason: "Look, I heard about your dad passing away. I just called to check on you and offer our condolences."
3: Remind: "If you or Jenny or the kids need anything at all..."
4: Deflect: "... just call my wife and we'll do whatever we can to help."
5. Exit: "I know you have a lot going on, so I'll check on you again in a few days. Call if you need us. Bye."

(09-14-2021, 07:34 PM)Jags Wrote: Not sure who to quote.  FlSptsgod hit it the nail on the head.  Would have been great at the time.  Mikey:  not so far off base.  However, I do like my BIL.  Him and I recently started to talk more.  But even then, it’s once in a while. There is some mileage between us and her family.  So, I suppose I found the right house.    We get along just fine.  After 20 yrs in the family, I still feel this situation is  in my wife’s wheelhouse.  All is good though, at least for the obvious people.  I’m out of hot water.  And yes, I will be asking the Mrs to do the dishes.  After all, I did cook!