(01-03-2022, 01:01 PM)Mikey Wrote:

(12-29-2021, 09:38 PM)Bchbunnie4 Wrote: My brother and sister in law used to give us all gift wrapped photos of them every year for Christmas. They gave them to everyone on this side of the family, meanwhile telling us about all the great gifts they gave her family. I would spend time and money picking out the perfect gifts for them and I got tired of it. One year I took my son to see Santa and had his pic made. Reused one of the cheap dollar store frames they had given us and wrapped it up as their Christmas gift that year. You know, we never got another gift wrapped picture of them again. 

Stop spending time and effort on people not willing to do it for you.

This needs to be framed and distributed globally.

SiL has basically ghosted the entire fambly. When I got to addressing the few xmas cards we send, I didn't bother sending them one, as they've relocated a few times and I don't trust the address we have. Wifey yelled at me about it, but hasn't put one in the mail either, that I can tell.

Wifey blew probably $150 on xmas gifts for a friend(ish) that only tends to call when a favor is needed. Basically the call was "here's our wishlists (nothing under $50, mind you), please send us something so that we can send you stuff. In the end, the other person shipped gifts for the kids (and us, maybe? I got lost in the fog of unwrappings) to our house, unwrapped, and wifey ordered everything shipped here. So, we had to wrap both batches of gifts, and the exchange was little more than the friend stopping by to pick up their crap. My suggestion to hand her the box of unwrapped items (as we received) didn't go over well, and I couldn't imagine how suggesting a response of "how bout neither of us buy stuff for each other since we aren't actually hanging out or doing what friends actually do" would have fared.

I'm done with takers.

People actually buy gifts like that for other adults? I can see giving a little something personal or meaningful if you’re invited to a party, or just because, but to have “friends” give you a gift list? Unless there was a fire and they lost everything, those friends are on their own! 
I’m not down with gift grabs and the people behind them.

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