(01-03-2022, 01:53 PM)Bchbunnie4 Wrote:

(01-03-2022, 01:01 PM)Mikey Wrote: This needs to be framed and distributed globally.

SiL has basically ghosted the entire fambly. When I got to addressing the few xmas cards we send, I didn't bother sending them one, as they've relocated a few times and I don't trust the address we have. Wifey yelled at me about it, but hasn't put one in the mail either, that I can tell.

Wifey blew probably $150 on xmas gifts for a friend(ish) that only tends to call when a favor is needed. Basically the call was "here's our wishlists (nothing under $50, mind you), please send us something so that we can send you stuff. In the end, the other person shipped gifts for the kids (and us, maybe? I got lost in the fog of unwrappings) to our house, unwrapped, and wifey ordered everything shipped here. So, we had to wrap both batches of gifts, and the exchange was little more than the friend stopping by to pick up their crap. My suggestion to hand her the box of unwrapped items (as we received) didn't go over well, and I couldn't imagine how suggesting a response of "how bout neither of us buy stuff for each other since we aren't actually hanging out or doing what friends actually do" would have fared.

I'm done with takers.

People actually buy gifts like that for other adults? I can see giving a little something personal or meaningful if you’re invited to a party, or just because, but to have “friends” give you a gift list? Unless there was a fire and they lost everything, those friends are on their own! 
I’m not down with gift grabs and the people behind them.

I'm more apt to exchange some baking and my homemade nog with the adults whose company I enjoy, or donate to a charity they support if you want to do something they'll appreciate. Not a big fan of "stuff" exchanges among the adults. Wifey doesn't have the [BLEEP] gene in her DNA to tell people like this to pound sand when they come asking.

Me? I got that gene in spades.

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