(06-11-2021, 05:39 PM)The Drifter Wrote: His daughter has not talked to him in years. The article does not say why or whose fault it was. Maybe the ex turned her against him, I don’t know but…. I at least would have had a little more class, paid it like I always did and leave it at that

The lesson I tell our kids - "Be the bigger person."

If the wife was a hemorrhoid, don't give her or your daughter reason to think you are just as much of a hemorrhoid, if not more. If the kid never spoke to you of their own free will, this gesture certainly isn't going to help those matters.

I've seen both sides of this story. The mother convinces the daughter that dad is a horrible person, and only in adulthood can dad and daughter mend fences and actually have a healthy relationship; the absent dad that never did anything to help, but the daughter still wants to meet him, and only after doing so, realizes mom was right to keep their distance.

It stinks when the adults act more juvenile than the children.

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