Quote:That's okay...I've concluded it's a lost cause too. Maybe life is easier when everything is always someone else's fault , or caused by someone else, and you aren't responsible for your own actions.

You two do realize that he was a 38 year old grown man and not some prepubescent teen, and that it was only five hours in a mall, she wasn't having him do something stressful like smuggle Jews out of nazi Germany or anything!!! Five hours...less time than it takes to go to a jags game.


Five hours shoe shopping in a mall...dear god...she must have drove him to it!!




Him having depression, or her being a complete [BAD WORD REMOVED] aside...here is the cliff notes version: He chose to date her...he chose to go shopping with her...he chose to throw himself off of a balcony.


Now, she can be up there with the worst girlfriends on the plant and Queen [BAD WORD REMOVED]...but he was still with her. His choice.


She could have forced him to go shopping with her, but unless a weapon or brut strength was involved, he decided to go. His choice.


Maybe she nagged him the whole five hours and he couldn't take any more, he still chose to jump rather than leave. His choice




What ever demons he was dealing with, ultimately the decision to end his life rather than deal with his life was all on him. Agree with me, disagree with me, I don't care.

 

I'm going to assume that you have never done any research on suicide. The idea that a 38 year old is immune to mental abuse is incredibly ignorant, but I expect nothing less from you.

 

"In 2010, the highest suicide rate (18.6) was among people 45 to 64 years old. The second highest rate (17.6) occurred in those 85 years and older. Younger groups have had consistently lower suicide rates than middle-aged and older adults. In 2010, adolescents and young adults aged 15 to 24 had a suicide rate of 10.5." source: http://www.afsp.org/understanding-suicid...nd-figures

 

There aren't many facts in this story, and so I think making assumptions is wrong, but one fact is that she was degrading him. She called him a skinflint and a Christmas hater. Degrading is, in fact, mental abuse and has the potential to drive somebody to depression / suicide.

 

 

None of us are saying that the shopping or the mall is what drove the man to kill himself. We are saying that the stressful situation along with the degrading were factors. Again, we aren't saying that the woman is to blame for the death, we are simply saying that she was one of the factors.

 

 

Would you be such an apologist if it was a man mentally abusing a female?

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