I am assuming this struck a personal chord with the OP. If you struggled watching a family member go into hospice or deteriorate with Alzheimer’s, I am sorry for your loss.

I will say, I watched my Grandfather struggle to care for my grandmother while she died of Alzheimer’s. The stress drove him downhill as well. I wonder sometimes if the patients really want their loved ones to suffer caring for them. I know if I start to go down that road, I’d like to head to a facility and spare my loved ones from going down with me. Just my opinion, not a judgment on others.

My condolences to Marty and his family.

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