(11-28-2019, 08:12 PM)americus 2.0 Wrote:

(11-28-2019, 01:34 PM)Caldrac Wrote: Sounds like a long list of excuses you listed above. My parents didn't have anything growing up. My dad was dirt poor. Lost his father when he was 20 and got my mother pregnant with me when she was 19. He filed bankrupt to afford his father's funeral costs because his sisters were too young to cover it and his mother was pretty much S.O.L. I don't think you have to be all that "smart" to get into college. At least not some community one. You can do this [BLEEP] online now for the most part. The hardest thing about college is balancing out time for classes while not [BLEEP] up your day job and daily responsibilities. 

My mom's parents split when they were 13 and she hates her mother till this day for a long list of personal reasons I won't delve into. My point is that neither one of them used anything as an excuse. They just got their [BLEEP] out there and worked hard from the ground up and didn't miss anytime. My mom dropped out and got a G.E.D. My dad graduated relatively high within his class out of Englewood but he didn't make the best of choices when he was young. He's a tinkerer. Can fix things. He figured a lot of things out on his own. 

You're too old to be giving out so many damn excuses. The people who I find the most lazy and excuse giving among my circle are people who were actually born with well off parents who handed them everything. Nobody actually wants to roll up their sleeves anymore and work hard and climb a ladder. Everybody wants a damn express pass to cut in line and get the nice yearly wage, the nice benefits, etc. That's not how it always works either. 

Sometimes you have to work your way through a mountain of colossal sized horse [BLEEP] to get a whiff of fresh air. To make a good living. Then maybe you can go to school and get a better education. Then maybe you change the rules for yourself. Unless you're genetically born with a handicap or low I.Q there's work to be had and work to be done out there. You just have to get your [BLEEP] off the couch, go out and see, not look, but see. Tired of excuses. While I was working two jobs at the age of sixteen before I came to my current employer my friends were out getting drunker than cooter brown, living at home with their folks, moving out into apartments with friends and then moving back in with their parents, etc. 

I did what I had to do. For years. And I get tired of hearing that "Well. . . I paid my dues". [BLEEP] out of here with that. You don't stop paying dues until the day you die. I get up everyday. Get out into traffic and eat [BLEEP] like everybody else does. Nobody wants to be a working class hero anymore. Everybody wants a camera in their face so you can subscribe to their YouTube channel or follow them on Instagram. Nobody has time for that [BLEEP]. At least the real movers and shakers. 

Stop pampering your damn children at home and maybe they'll wake up and amount to something by the time their 25 years old. Too much pampering and catering these days. Can't stand it. And don't even get me going on my wife's family. 1st generation Bosnian immigrants from a War torn land with a 5 year old and newborn in tote. Had to learn English here while cleaning houses for a few years while my mother in law went to nursing school to relearn everything she just did in her homeland. Now she's a Director and lives in a fancy [BLEEP] neighborhood making well over six figures a year.

/End Rant

It was a general response to what I've seen in my 47 years. I tend to see things from more than just my personal POV and experience. Not making excuses for anyone, just relating the circumstances I've observed. 

So sorry you took it so personally.

I think early in life the excuse you listed matter. But at some point early in adulthood things stop being your parents fault and become your responsibility. Not everybody gets a good path, but at least in the US there is a path for those who are willing to grind. I took a much longer path to my career than many others because of my background, and it stunk, but once I got over self-pity I made a plan to deal with my deficits and move forward. It was trogging thru crap, but eventually I started to make it.

Its like I tell my wife, when your born poor you only get two options: stay poor forever or work real hard and maybe get some moneyy when your older. Capitalism is the only reason we have the second option at all, and too many are just too dense to get that.

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