Quote:I know we're joking here, but I don't think many men are that repulsive. If a woman goes that way, or a man if the roles are reversed, it was just a matter of time.
Yeah, you don't switch teams unless the proclivity existed to begin with.
Quote:My advice would be - don't listen to any advice!
None of us have been in your shoes because we are not you. Sorry to say it, but you're on your own here. But then again, aren't we all.
Gabe is right on re the talking to some one, by whatever title you want to give them - therapist, counselor, etc. But I suspect you already know that.
Same with the legal advice. Just talk to someone about options - it will give you time to think. That's what you need most - time to think.
And one last thing, which kind of ties in to the legal advice. Child custody can get weird. Find out as much as you can about the process in your state and give some thought about how you would handle things if she gets custody. Don't assume it's a sure thing that you'll get custody.
You may be a long way from some of this, but give it all some consideration, you know, in your spare time.
And remember, no one else can speak or think for you. Do what you think is best so you can live with yourself down the road.
Make your mind up. You say don't listen to any advice, and then give advice....
There's a reason he posted. He wants to here other view points.
Quote:Per everything BigJag has said about what the woman is doing, unfortunately the above is pretty much where its come to.
BigJag has already got his heart trampled on...he doesn't need to see the his issues multiply by having his wallet/ wealth trampled on by the same woman, too.
Now it's business.
Quote:Now it's business.
Yup.
This all happened in about a week? Your wife is a quick mover.
Quote:This all happened in about a week? Your wife is a quick mover.
Thats what surprised me, too. A week for all this to happen just seems....
quick.
I mean think about that....the wife is willing to throw an entire marriage away because she thinks she feels that this one week fling (or with that person) is where she wants to be for the rest of her life?? Its an incredibly short sighted decision. She sounds like a complete flake to me. Sorry, BigJag...but I'm just being honest.
I'm skeptical that this only took a week. If that's the case, then his wife was just looking for an opportunity.
Quote:I'm skeptical that this only took a week. If that's the case, then his wife was just looking for an opportunity.
That's my perspective too. These things take time to develop. She may have been texting with the affair partner for only a week, but communication likely started earlier than that.
A little experimenting is one thing...switching teams in midstream seems pretty extreme to me!!
Quote:A little experimenting is one thing...switching teams in midstream seems pretty extreme to me!!
I could see it if there is a lasting relationship, but to just totally call it quits (or threaten that) is a big jump. If my wife were in this situation I'd expect a chance to participate before I'm totally kicked out of the picture.
Quote:I could see it if there is a lasting relationship, but to just totally call it quits (or threaten that) is a big jump. If my wife were in this situation I'd expect a chance to participate before I'm totally kicked out of the picture.
Sort of like a parting gift! :thumbsup:
Quote:Sort of like a parting gift! :thumbsup:
Unless of course your performance (or lack thereof) contributed to her decision to "switch teams" as someone alluded to in this thread earlier.
Quote:Unless of course your performance (or lack thereof) contributed to her decision to "switch teams" as someone alluded to in this thread earlier.
So then she's been faking it for a while now...what's one more performance?
Quote:I could see it if there is a lasting relationship, but to just totally call it quits (or threaten that) is a big jump. If my wife were in this situation I'd expect a chance to participate before I'm totally kicked out of the picture.
Because nothing brings closure like getting a vivid demonstration of how and where you fell short of expectations.
Quote:Because nothing brings closure like getting a vivid demonstration of how and where you fell short of expectations.
I doubt that she had expectations that he would have a [BAD WORD REMOVED]...
Edited to add : Wow...the correct term for the female anatomy is a bad word?
Wonder if penis is too?
Edited again to add: Apparently penis isn't a bad word...go figure!! :wacko:
And the big question remains un-asked. What is this other woman's marital/availability status?
It is possible that some other person doesn't even know, and maybe BigJag's wife is being played, too.
Quote:And the big question remains un-asked. What is this other woman's marital/availability status?
It is possible that some other person doesn't even know, and maybe BigJag's wife is being played, too.
Two straight woman tripped over lesbianism on the way to the gym...that sounds like the set up for a joke somehow...but it's missing a duck!! :woot:
And yes...I know that the other woman could be with another woman, but it wasn't as funny...sue me!!
Quote:I doubt that she had expectations that he would have a [BAD WORD REMOVED]...
Edited to add : Wow...the correct term for the female anatomy is a bad word?
Wonder if penis is too?
Edited again to add: Apparently penis isn't a bad word...go figure!! :wacko:
I hope not. I don't want mine deleted!
Quote:Edited again to add: Apparently penis isn't a bad word...go figure!! :wacko:
See? Women do get what they want, while men don't get what they want. Even this board blocks us men from Va(block).
Quote:I hope not. I don't want mine deleted!
Too late.