(11-19-2019, 01:13 PM)americus 2.0 Wrote: [ -> ] (11-18-2019, 12:26 PM)The Real Marty Wrote: [ -> ]"The Champ is here!"
"The Champ is here!"
Or is it "the chimp?"
So sick of those commercials.
I can't stand them. The first time or two was fine. Now it's just a brain bleed waiting to happen. Thank God for the mute button.
What commercial is this? I don’t think I’ve seen it.
Family politics..
My sister has an incredible feeling of self entitlement. She hasn't worked for 17 years. She has a son with 'additional needs' but this shouldn't prevent her from working (especially seeing as he's at school Monday-Friday 8-3.30 but with school provided travel he's out of the house 7.30-4.15). It's my sons 9th birthday this weekend and she has not contacted me for my address (I moved in January) to even send him a card, as trivial as this sounds, if I forgot/ignored her sons birthday, there would be hell to pay.
I have worked my behind off since I was 16 (19 years) and if there's a family occasion that I can't make due to work commitments, I get a lot of abuse. I've tried to explain that my job covers 24/7-365, but it falls on deaf ears.
I've tried reaching out to my parents and they just say 'you know what she's like'. It's really getting me down.
(11-20-2019, 06:31 PM)DarloJAG84 Wrote: [ -> ]Family politics..
My sister has an incredible feeling of self entitlement. She hasn't worked for 17 years. She has a son with 'additional needs' but this shouldn't prevent her from working (especially seeing as he's at school Monday-Friday 8-3.30 but with school provided travel he's out of the house 7.30-4.15). It's my sons 9th birthday this weekend and she has not contacted me for my address (I moved in January) to even send him a card, as trivial as this sounds, if I forgot/ignored her sons birthday, there would be hell to pay.
I have worked my behind off since I was 16 (19 years) and if there's a family occasion that I can't make due to work commitments, I get a lot of abuse. I've tried to explain that my job covers 24/7-365, but it falls on deaf ears.
I've tried reaching out to my parents and they just say 'you know what she's like'. It's really getting me down.
You can either treat her how she treats you and don’t go out of your way to do those kind of things families do for each other...
OR
You can treat her like she does you and read her the riot act when she acts like a selfish heifer.
(11-20-2019, 11:30 PM)Bchbunnie4 Wrote: [ -> ] (11-20-2019, 06:31 PM)DarloJAG84 Wrote: [ -> ]Family politics..
My sister has an incredible feeling of self entitlement. She hasn't worked for 17 years. She has a son with 'additional needs' but this shouldn't prevent her from working (especially seeing as he's at school Monday-Friday 8-3.30 but with school provided travel he's out of the house 7.30-4.15). It's my sons 9th birthday this weekend and she has not contacted me for my address (I moved in January) to even send him a card, as trivial as this sounds, if I forgot/ignored her sons birthday, there would be hell to pay.
I have worked my behind off since I was 16 (19 years) and if there's a family occasion that I can't make due to work commitments, I get a lot of abuse. I've tried to explain that my job covers 24/7-365, but it falls on deaf ears.
I've tried reaching out to my parents and they just say 'you know what she's like'. It's really getting me down.
You can either treat her how she treats you and don’t go out of your way to do those kind of things families do for each other...
OR
You can treat her like she does you and read her the riot act when she acts like a selfish heifer.
Or perhaps I just ignore her until we're forced to make pleasantries?
(11-20-2019, 06:31 PM)DarloJAG84 Wrote: [ -> ]Family politics..
My sister has an incredible feeling of self entitlement. She hasn't worked for 17 years. She has a son with 'additional needs' but this shouldn't prevent her from working (especially seeing as he's at school Monday-Friday 8-3.30 but with school provided travel he's out of the house 7.30-4.15). It's my sons 9th birthday this weekend and she has not contacted me for my address (I moved in January) to even send him a card, as trivial as this sounds, if I forgot/ignored her sons birthday, there would be hell to pay.
I have worked my behind off since I was 16 (19 years) and if there's a family occasion that I can't make due to work commitments, I get a lot of abuse. I've tried to explain that my job covers 24/7-365, but it falls on deaf ears.
I've tried reaching out to my parents and they just say 'you know what she's like'. It's really getting me down.
I have a sister who has the same mindset and she has alienated the whole family with her BS. We all just had to stop communicating with her because she's so toxic. Let it go. Too little time in life to be dragged down by other people's crap even if it is family.
(11-21-2019, 01:13 AM)americus 2.0 Wrote: [ -> ] (11-20-2019, 06:31 PM)DarloJAG84 Wrote: [ -> ]Family politics..
My sister has an incredible feeling of self entitlement. She hasn't worked for 17 years. She has a son with 'additional needs' but this shouldn't prevent her from working (especially seeing as he's at school Monday-Friday 8-3.30 but with school provided travel he's out of the house 7.30-4.15). It's my sons 9th birthday this weekend and she has not contacted me for my address (I moved in January) to even send him a card, as trivial as this sounds, if I forgot/ignored her sons birthday, there would be hell to pay.
I have worked my behind off since I was 16 (19 years) and if there's a family occasion that I can't make due to work commitments, I get a lot of abuse. I've tried to explain that my job covers 24/7-365, but it falls on deaf ears.
I've tried reaching out to my parents and they just say 'you know what she's like'. It's really getting me down.
I have a sister who has the same mindset and she has alienated the whole family with her BS. We all just had to stop communicating with her because she's so toxic. Let it go. Too little time in life to be dragged down by other people's crap even if it is family.
Too true, thanks!
(11-21-2019, 01:13 AM)americus 2.0 Wrote: [ -> ] (11-20-2019, 06:31 PM)DarloJAG84 Wrote: [ -> ]Family politics..
My sister has an incredible feeling of self entitlement. She hasn't worked for 17 years. She has a son with 'additional needs' but this shouldn't prevent her from working (especially seeing as he's at school Monday-Friday 8-3.30 but with school provided travel he's out of the house 7.30-4.15). It's my sons 9th birthday this weekend and she has not contacted me for my address (I moved in January) to even send him a card, as trivial as this sounds, if I forgot/ignored her sons birthday, there would be hell to pay.
I have worked my behind off since I was 16 (19 years) and if there's a family occasion that I can't make due to work commitments, I get a lot of abuse. I've tried to explain that my job covers 24/7-365, but it falls on deaf ears.
I've tried reaching out to my parents and they just say 'you know what she's like'. It's really getting me down.
I have a sister who has the same mindset and she has alienated the whole family with her BS. We all just had to stop communicating with her because she's so toxic. Let it go. Too little time in life to be dragged down by other people's crap even if it is family.
Do I know you? LOL
I also have a sibling that's [BLEEP] up my family so much that I haven't seen most of them for 10+ years. I just decided many years ago that I was going to worry about my own family (wife and kids) and if my siblings need to get in touch with me they know where to find me. There are times when I feel bad about it, especially seeing how close-knit my wife's family is. But it just became too much of a stress/hassle to be around them and involved in the family politics.
And while we're one Darlo's subject, I'll add backstabbing 'friends' to the list. I'm, unfortunately, dealing with that now and what makes it worse is I have to bowl with the guy every Wednesday. It turns what should be a fun evening into a stressor.
I haven’t spoken to my oldest brother in over 20 years because he’s simply full of himself and I have nothing in common with him. He struck out on his own when I was 5 years old, so it’s not like we ever really bonded.
I rarely communicate with my two other brothers because about the only time they contact me is when they need money. There was a time when I wanted to keep the family bonds intact but I soon realized that the more I kept in contact, the more often they asked for a handout. Now I just don’t care.
Well, I was glad to get that off my chest.
However, Darlo, Americus established the salient point; life is too short to care about people who don’t really care about you - even if it’s family. If your sister won’t make an effort to acknowledge the most important person in your life on his special day, then she is unworthy of fret.
(11-21-2019, 09:05 AM)homebiscuit Wrote: [ -> ]I haven’t spoken to my oldest brother in over 20 years because he’s simply full of himself and I have nothing in common with him. He struck out on his own when I was 5 years old, so it’s not like we ever really bonded.
I rarely communicate with my two other brothers because about the only time they contact me is when they need money. There was a time when I wanted to keep the family bonds intact but I soon realized that the more I kept in contact, the more often they asked for a handout. Now I just don’t care.
Well, I was glad to get that off my chest.
However, Darlo, Americus established the salient point; life is too short to care about people who don’t really care about you - even if it’s family. If your sister won’t make an effort to acknowledge the most important person in your life on his special day, then she is unworthy of fret.
I have another sibling like this...
(11-20-2019, 06:31 PM)DarloJAG84 Wrote: [ -> ]Family politics..
My sister has an incredible feeling of self entitlement. She hasn't worked for 17 years. She has a son with 'additional needs' but this shouldn't prevent her from working (especially seeing as he's at school Monday-Friday 8-3.30 but with school provided travel he's out of the house 7.30-4.15). It's my sons 9th birthday this weekend and she has not contacted me for my address (I moved in January) to even send him a card, as trivial as this sounds, if I forgot/ignored her sons birthday, there would be hell to pay.
I have worked my behind off since I was 16 (19 years) and if there's a family occasion that I can't make due to work commitments, I get a lot of abuse. I've tried to explain that my job covers 24/7-365, but it falls on deaf ears.
I've tried reaching out to my parents and they just say 'you know what she's like'. It's really getting me down.
Do your best. Don't expect others to.
If you take care of the first part of that, pay no mind to the noise of others, friend. If you think their complaints are unfounded, call them out on it, and be done with it.
Life is too short to worry yourself over others' unrealistic expectations. It may hurt some feelings in the short term, but you won't need a therapist, either.
Hoping that things improve for you, DJ.
(11-21-2019, 08:33 AM)Rico Wrote: [ -> ]And while we're one Darlo's subject, I'll add backstabbing 'friends' to the list. I'm, unfortunately, dealing with that now and what makes it worse is I have to bowl with the guy every Wednesday. It turns what should be a fun evening into a stressor.
Leave him a few 7-10 splits with a wink as you sit down, hopefully he gets the message
If you're good enough to force splits like that, I might recommend graduating from the rec league!
(11-21-2019, 10:23 AM)Mikey Wrote: [ -> ]
(11-21-2019, 08:33 AM)Rico Wrote: [ -> ]And while we're one Darlo's subject, I'll add backstabbing 'friends' to the list. I'm, unfortunately, dealing with that now and what makes it worse is I have to bowl with the guy every Wednesday. It turns what should be a fun evening into a stressor.
Leave him a few 7-10 splits with a wink as you sit down, hopefully he gets the message
If you're good enough to force splits like that, I might recommend graduating from the rec league!
Bowl [BLEEP] to make a point? Ummmmm...no.
(11-20-2019, 11:39 PM)DarloJAG84 Wrote: [ -> ] (11-20-2019, 11:30 PM)Bchbunnie4 Wrote: [ -> ]You can either treat her how she treats you and don’t go out of your way to do those kind of things families do for each other...
OR
You can treat her like she does you and read her the riot act when she acts like a selfish heifer.
Or perhaps I just ignore her until we're forced to make pleasantries?
That’s pretty much option one. Lol
I wish that my brother was still alive. I wouldn't care how stuck up he may have been. It's a peivelidge to still have siblings above ground.
Cherish them while you can.
NH3...
(11-21-2019, 02:02 AM)DarloJAG84 Wrote: [ -> ] (11-21-2019, 01:13 AM)americus 2.0 Wrote: [ -> ]I have a sister who has the same mindset and she has alienated the whole family with her BS. We all just had to stop communicating with her because she's so toxic. Let it go. Too little time in life to be dragged down by other people's crap even if it is family.
Too true, thanks!
You're welcome!
(11-21-2019, 08:24 AM)Rico Wrote: [ -> ] (11-21-2019, 01:13 AM)americus 2.0 Wrote: [ -> ]I have a sister who has the same mindset and she has alienated the whole family with her BS. We all just had to stop communicating with her because she's so toxic. Let it go. Too little time in life to be dragged down by other people's crap even if it is family.
Do I know you? LOL
I also have a sibling that's [BLEEP] up my family so much that I haven't seen most of them for 10+ years. I just decided many years ago that I was going to worry about my own family (wife and kids) and if my siblings need to get in touch with me they know where to find me. There are times when I feel bad about it, especially seeing how close-knit my wife's family is. But it just became too much of a stress/hassle to be around them and involved in the family politics.
I'm so over her crap I don't feel bad. Her behavior is on her, just as yours is on them, and plenty of chances were given to set things right and she didn't want any part of it. My husband's family is close too and they don't understand my family having to take a stand and not let her ruin us all but that's not our problem either. Sounds harsh but it is what it is. Lying, stealing, emotional abuse, etc., will not be tolerated.
(11-21-2019, 11:55 AM)NH3 Wrote: [ -> ]I wish that my brother was still alive. I wouldn't care how stuck up he may have been. It's a peivelidge to still have siblings above ground.
Cherish them while you can.
NH3...
When your siblings (or other family members) lie, steal and emotionally manipulate and abuse you....a line has to be drawn and
they choose that line by their behavior. Those of us left in the ashes and ruin just reinforce that line for self preservation.
Just to give you an example of her mindset; when we were kids she told our dad that our stepdad was molesting her. Dad goes to the police and we're all hauled in for questioning. Long story short is she was lying and admitted she lied and never apologized. Her excuse for the lie? She was mad that they didn't let her do what she wanted. She was 14 years old. She is now 45 and her mindset is still to destroy people who don't give her what she wants.
So yeah, there really is no love lost there.
(11-20-2019, 06:31 PM)DarloJAG84 Wrote: [ -> ]I have worked my behind off since I was 16 (19 years)
How many is that in American?
I understand the 'cherish them' remark, I really do.. but when it physically drains you and stresses you out, when you're balancing a hectic career and 2 kids, surely something has to give? That something, in my case, is the one thing that drains the life out of me.
I wish it was different, but I'm done with reaching out, constantly.
Why does my bank/credit union insist on continually changing the look and feel of the online banking app?