Quote:Just because he's family, doesn't mean you should make yourself miserable for him!! Life is too short to force yourself to put up with crap like that.
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I try and try. Apparently he doesn't want to be my brother. I've had a few tonight , and decided to finally call an air every things out but got the two ring voicemail. Should I call it quits? My believes tell me otherwise but my heart says [BLEEP] off!
I just want to tell him to [BLEEP] off. And if he ever needs anything in the future to not ebpven think about calling me. I positive hell need me before I need him. But it's my brother. He's making it pretty hard.
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I try and try. Apparently he doesn't want to be my brother. I've had a few tonight , and decided to finally call an air every things out but got the two ring voicemail. Should I call it quits? My believes tell me otherwise but my heart says [BAD WORD REMOVED] off!
You don't have to be a feminine hygiene product to him...but you don't have to go out of your way for him either. You can't make someone like you or be nice just because your family.
Quote:I just want to tell him to [BAD WORD REMOVED] off. And if he ever needs anything in the future to not ebpven think about calling me. I positive hell need me before I need him. But it's my brother. He's making it pretty hard.
Have you ever tried talking this out with him?
Quote:I just want to tell him to [BAD WORD REMOVED] off. And if he ever needs anything in the future to not ebpven think about calling me. I positive hell need me before I need him. But it's my brother. He's making it pretty hard.
You'd probably feel bad for doing it once you said it.
You don't have to invite him to stay with you if he treats you like crap. Let him find another place to stay.
Quote:You'd probably feel bad for doing it once you said it.
You don't have to invite him to stay with you if he treats you like crap. Let him find another place to stay.
he's already got a place to stay. He conned my parents Into staying with them instead and never bothers
D to tell me he was even coming into town. There is obviously laundry that needs to air yet he seems to not want to talk about it. From my stand point it's all on his side, I'm sure to him it's all my doing ( not sure how, I've tried to live my life true)
I'll be honest, I'm sure I'm partially to blame, after all I'm on my 17th, but still. After 17 I am still aware That ther is an issue, and still, not wNting to add flames to the fire. That is why I tried to call him. But the two ring and voicemail still pisses me off. I want to right it, I really do. But, without him wanting to make it happen, I'm at a crossroad. Do I lose a brother, or do I work for it? I'm trying g? But for the love of god I don't know what I did to lose it.
Quote:I'll be honest, I'm sure I'm partially to blame, after all I'm on my 17th, but still. After 17 I am still aware That ther is an issue, and still, not wNting to add flames to the fire. That is why I tried to call him. But the two ring and voicemail still [BAD WORD REMOVED] me off. I want to right it, I really do. But, without him wanting to make it happen, I'm at a crossroad. Do I lose a brother, or do I work for it? I'm trying g? But for the love of god I don't know what I did to lose it.
Probably not a good idea to talk to him when you've been putting some back...:no:
Have you talked to your parents about it? Maybe they know what his problem with you is.
Quote:Probably not a good idea to talk to him when you've been putting some back...:no:
Have you talked to your parents about it? Maybe they know what his problem with you is.
Oh, lol. Yeah, I've talked to my parents. Let's just say I'm their favorite. When they asks me ( when preparing ing for their will, if I want their most prized possessions, or not). Heck, they don't even like their own grand kids I wouldn't be surprised if mu step son got more than my brother. Yes, my parents and I have talked.
Of course mom tries to talk more than dad and try to keep the family together. I certainly am not alone in this. I'm just trying to live by my lord and trying to love my "brothers" whether actually blood or fellow man. But good lord this douche bag makes it hard. No doubt I've got my demons, but not like this fool.
Quote:Oh, lol. Yeah, I've talked to my parents. Let's just say I'm their favorite. When they asks me ( when preparing ing for their will, if I want their most prized possessions, or not). Heck, they don't even like their own grand kids I wouldn't be surprised if mu step son got more than my brother. Yes, my parents and I have talked.
Of course mom tries to talk more than dad and try to keep the family together. I certainly am not alone in this. I'm just trying to live by my lord and trying to love my "brothers" whether actually blood or fellow man. But good lord this [BAD WORD REMOVED] bag makes it hard. No doubt I've got my demons, but not like this fool.
Maybe it the whole you being the favorite part that's got his panties in a bunch.
Quote:Maybe it the whole you being the favorite part that's got his panties in a bunch.
Yeah, I'm not sure he really knows I'm the favorite. But. I'm at my breaking point with him. Can't even try to reach out and talk it out. He's just sooo busy and I'm just a lil civilian that ain't worth a [BLEEP]!
Quote:Yeah, I'm not sure he really knows I'm the favorite. But. I'm at my breaking point with him. Can't even try to reach out and talk it out. He's just sooo busy and I'm just a lil civilian that ain't worth a [BAD WORD REMOVED]!
I'm sure he knows...siblings always know who the favorite is. :yes:
Quote:I'm sure he knows...siblings always know who the favorite is. :yes:
Idk. Maybe he does. My family is small, so it hurts/sucks that him and I aren't close or even talk. I see big families that get together often and enjoy hanging out with each other and I'm envious of that.
Jaggy; I feel you man. I have a small family and while I don't think my relationship with my brother is as "rough" as yours seems right now, there are some hard spots.
Just seems like he's under your skin and that's a tough way to be. You're more prone to act out of emotion right now, whether it's anger, sadness, regret or whatever so maybe the best thing to do is write down how you see the situation and how you feel about it. Put it on paper as a letter or even an email but don't hit 'Send'. Open yourself up and pour all that stuff out. Then come back later, maybe a day or two and read that letter. Make sure that it's accurate and it really says what you want it to say.
Edit it as you see fit or just scrap it all together, but I found that if I reach out then I feel like I've done all I can. Once that I've done my part, while there may be sadness if things don't get resolved, at least there is closure.
I hope things work out for you brother.
My parents moved to different places lot when I was a child. I always found them, though.
Quote:My parents moved to different places lot when I was a child. I always found them, though.
That's how you honed your stalking skills, eh?
Quote:Jaggy; I feel you man. I have a small family and while I don't think my relationship with my brother is as "rough" as yours seems right now, there are some hard spots.
Just seems like he's under your skin and that's a tough way to be. You're more prone to act out of emotion right now, whether it's anger, sadness, regret or whatever so maybe the best thing to do is write down how you see the situation and how you feel about it. Put it on paper as a letter or even an email but don't hit 'Send'. Open yourself up and pour all that stuff out. Then come back later, maybe a day or two and read that letter. Make sure that it's accurate and it really says what you want it to say.
Edit it as you see fit or just scrap it all together, but I found that if I reach out then I feel like I've done all I can. Once that I've done my part, while there may be sadness if things don't get resolved, at least there is closure.
I hope things work out for you brother.
Thanks man, I think I will try doing that.
Quote:That's how you honed your stalking skills, eh?
Is that the best outfit you can wear around the house?
Quote:Is that the best outfit you can wear around the house?
On a lazy Sunday morning...yes!
Plus I really need to do some laundry...can you tell me if I'm low on detergent?
Quote:On a lazy Sunday morning...yes!
Plus I really need to do some laundry...can you tell me if I'm low on detergent?
I suppose you'd like me to cook breakfast too. No respect for stalker skills anymore. What's this country coming to?